The Transformative Process of Striving
How to reach your full potential in life
What is it you want to achieve in life? What do you want to be the source of your success? Do you want to be the owner of your own company? Is writing your passion? Do you hope to see yourself in a leadership position? Each of us is striving for something.
The pressure of end result thinking
Obviously, it’s important to have goals, to be working toward something like financial freedom. However, making that goal the focal point of your life, keeping it in mind 24/7 may actually be detrimental to your efforts.
The unrelenting thought of your goal creates a lot of pressure in your life as you focus all your hopes and dreams on an outcome. An outcome with no guarantee. It makes every failure feel worse. Every delay feels longer and more significant than it need be. Others in the same field become competitors rather than allies.
The outcome is out of your hands
Absolutely strive. Do your unmitigated best, but don’t become too attached to an outcome exactly as you picture it within the timeframe you decided in advance. For example, if your goal is to get out of debt fast so that you can improve your bad credit, then you need to do the math to figure a realistic timeframe to achieve your goal. You may not have complete control over the outcome, but you do have full control over your planning and process.
You cannot control the other people who wrote and published a book in the time you spent looking for (and not finding) an agent. Nor do you have any control over other people who reached your financial goals while you were still trying to pay off debt.
The only thing you have any control over is you. Your attitude is within your control. How you react to circumstances, positive and negative is in your ballpark. Even if someone is striving for the same things as you, their journey is theirs. Your journey is the only one you should be focusing on.
No one starts at the top
As you watch other people succeed while you're still working so hard to get your goals off the ground, remember they too went through a learning curve. No one started with the source code. In other words, success does not simply pop into existence at the finish line. Each person works, strives, fails in their own way and in their own time.
The way to avoid the pressure cooker is to avoid focusing solely on the goal or other people who have or haven’t reached a similar benchmark. Maintain balance by putting in the required effort everyday – without worrying about the outcome. Get better, stronger, and more able for the sake of getting better, stronger, and more able.
The only person you should be competing against is 'yesterday you'. You cannot control the outcome, but you can control the process and transform through it.